Category Archives: Fearless Tips

Thank you Chris Ruisi

A Thank You Goes a Long Way

Recently a client asked if I could recommend a capable P&C (Property and Casualty insurance) agent to her and her partner to consider for their business.

I gave her request some thought and wrote down the names of 3 professional P&C agents I knew. I then called several of my close COIs (centers of influence referral partners) to get their opinions on my 3 candidates. One of my 3 candidates got the majority of the votes and got my “thumbs up” to be referred to my client.

My referral and my client hit it off and after several joint due diligence meetings, they are now working together.

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Chris Ruisi - Goal Setting Tips

The Importance of Goal Setting

Goal setting is as important in your personal life as it is in business. The most common denominator in all the self-help literature and books is the importance of goal setting.

Despite their obvious value, our experience with goals has shown that some are good at setting goals, sticking to them and achieving great results, while others can’t keep a New Year’s resolution to stop smoking for two days in a row.

Here is the key point to keep in mind: winners have specific goals. Without specific goals, there is no way you can determine the most important tasks. There is nothing more powerful to your workday than knowing your purpose and executing it in an effective manner. Your life will take on a real meaning once you begin to adopt a goals mentality and focus. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Grateful Live Life

Enjoy Life and Be Grateful

Well, we just completed what I hope was a restful Thanksgiving weekend. I hope that you let the spirit and intent of the holiday guide you in all that you did. If so, great! If not, you don’t have to wait until next year to take the time to reflect on all of the good things and people in your life.

The fact is we only get one life (and I know we are dead for a long time), so why not get the most out of it? Make it a point to have fun. Taking life too seriously will kill you. You work hard so there should be no guilt associated with the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of your life. Look, there is some degree of suffering in each of our lives. Many of us choose – that’s right choose – to suffer longer than we have to or need to. Don’t be a victim of self-induced suffering brought on by all that surrounds us.

If fun doesn’t happen spontaneously, then plan it and make time for it. Just have fun!

Make time every day, to be grateful for all that you have; maybe the first thing in the morning or the last thing every evening. Many of us spend far too much time obsessing either over what others have or what is missing in our lives. If you want more, then pursue it. Look in the mirror daily—you are your own solution to the challenges you face every day. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Productivity

Here You Go Again!

It’s that time of year…again! We’re rapidly approaching the end of the year and you’re all starting to realize you still have a great deal of work to be done! But, let me ask you: Does all of it have to be done? You are right in the same place – again – that you promised yourself last year you would do everything to avoid.

Why are you here – again – because over the course of the year you lost your focus. Or, you never really had it. Consider these facts:

  • The biggest challenge we all have is that there’s never enough time in any given day to get everything done.
  • Staying focused on your priorities is one of the toughest challenges we all have. Yet we make it harder by not understanding what a real priority is.
  • Many of you think that making a list of “to do’s” (the longer the better) makes you effective planners. Again, another fallacy because you don’t question whether some of the things on your list should be there at all!

Here 5 simple steps you can take – starting today – to gain and stay focused on getting the “right” things done: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Best Use of Your Time

What’s The Best Use of Your Time?

At the beginning of each week, sit down and review where you are as compared to the goals you need to achieve. Based on this review, determine what activities you need to initiate – these activities will determine where “you” will use your time. To the extent practical and possible, your activities (tasks or to do’s) should fall into one, several or all of the following four categories: Continue reading

Never Bleed in the Water When the Sharks are Around

Finding yourself in a tough situation often comes with the territory when you are in a leadership position. I describe these situations as being comparable to swimming with a bunch of hungry sharks. I learned through my experiences that the one thing you never do is bleed when the sharks are in the water with you.

In these tough situations, leaders sometimes get bruised and battered and they bleed. Once the sharks sense that there is blood in the water, the intensity of the crisis accelerates and the urge to start a feeding frenzy increases. A feeding frenzy in business terms is when there is a complete lack of discipline, which results in a loss of focus. Fear of the unknown becomes the dominating emotion.

It’s these moments of crisis that become a defining moment in your professional career. You can’t waste any time treading water and “hoping” that the sharks will get bored and leave. You have to act with purpose while in the midst of the situation. You can’t call a “time-out” or” a “do-over”. You’re in a “real-time” situation that requires real-time deliberate and committed action.

So, what are you to do? First and foremost, when you find yourself among the sharks – a crisis – a bold plan is needed to help you navigate your way to safety. Let’s talk about some of the components of this plan. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Managing Fear and Risk

Running with the Bulls

I learned recently that a good friend of mine has, on several occasions, travelled to Spain to “run with the bulls”. If there was ever a good example of evaluating risk and managing fear, running with a bunch of angry and powerful bulls down a narrow street with people shouting and cheering would be it!

What my friend did first was assess the risk versus the goal that he wanted to achieve: to test the limits of his capabilities and bring them to a higher level. This in turn would give him the self-esteem and confidence to tackle bigger challenges in his career or personal life. Or in other words, build his self-belief.

In evaluating the risk, fear and reward factors, he concluded that if he prepared appropriately and studied what needed to be done, he could bring the risk and the fear down to an acceptable level to achieve his goal. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Comfortable Inaction

It’s Déjà Vu All Over Again

Recently, I coached several folks through situations where they were comfortable or complacent with their current status quo and were “frozen” with respect to what to do to break out of what is often referred to as “comfortable inaction”.

Since comfortable inaction can be damaging to those who “choose” to practice it, I thought I would share what I previously wrote about the topic back in 2013. So as Yogi Berra so famously said, “It’s Déjà Vu all over again.” Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Keep it Simple

It Can Be Simple!

Nothing is ever really as hard as it first appears to be. I have often joked that there is something in our genetic make-up that kicks in each morning that tells us, “Look for something real easy and then try to make it harder than it needs to be.”

The fact is that we sometimes tend to make things harder or more complicated than they need to be. Why? Because we do. We over-think the situation and lose site of the best solution or action that needs to be taken.

We think that we have to be perfect in our solutions. Let me let you in on a little secret: People who try to be perfect are usually procrastinators! They live in a world of “getting ready, to get started, to commence, to begin.” They are always at the starting line, waiting and waiting…while others are getting ahead and making progress.

We get distracted by what might or could happen until we overwhelm ourselves with layers and layers of “perceived” complexity, confusion and – here’s the big one – fear. We eventually confuse others working with us. We let this confusion literally “stop us in our tracks”. We create more “obstacles and barriers” that waste time and money, and prevent us from capitalizing on opportunities that may exist.

We all like things to be simple. Yet, sometimes by our own actions, we make them complicated. Making things more simple, sounds simple, right? You bet it is—but it’s hard work because it requires that you change a habit or develop a new one.

Think about a recent problem or crisis you had to deal with. How could you have handled it in a simpler, more effective way? Follow that simple thought process in the future.

 

Chris Ruisi Playing It Safe

Playing it Too Safe

It sometimes feels very easy to fail. We convince ourselves that it is bad to experience failure. In reality, depending on how we handle it, from failure we can learn how to do it better. Quitting and giving up – not failure – is what needs to be feared.

To protect ourselves from the pain of failure, we deliberately lower our expectations for our own performance. Setting the bar too low doesn’t help or protect us. In fact, by doing so, you cheat yourself of your full effort. You get into the dangerous habit of doing “just enough” to get by. In other words, you “play it safe”. Many people would be surprised to learn that it really doesn’t take a lot of additional effort to be better than average. If you don’t experience a setback now and then, you are playing it too safe. Continue reading