Category Archives: Self-Growth

Success Habits: You Management

Do you think you need better “time management” skills? Or do you need better “YOU management” skills? Without clarity of goals, there’s no way you can ever manage your time. Learn what you need to do to better manage “you” in this video.

 

Chris Ruisi-Success

Want to Be a Success? Then Act Like You’re A Success.

Everyone wants to be a success. Yet very few realize the full measure of what it means to be a success. They end up settling for something less than what they originally set out to achieve. While success is personal to each of us, from my own observations there are common qualities and habits that the most successful people possess.

Look at this list of “10” ways successful people act and see how you measure up: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Courage

Do You Have the Courage?

Right now, as you read this you are capable of significantly improving your performance if you have the courage to take that very first step to get started. And after that first step, the courage to take another and another until you have achieved your goal.

Your current habits define you. Do you have the courage to change those habits to help you re-define yourself to be the person you need to be to succeed?

Change is hard, and nobody really likes it because it makes you feel uncomfortable. To achieve your goals, you need to have the courage and stamina to push through that feeling of being uncomfortable so that you are comfortable with it and be the master of that change. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi - Get out of your own way

Get Out of Your Own Way

At times, I’ve used a simple exercise with clients to help them understand that they need to get out of their own way.

I ask them to look at a mirror and tell me what they see. The initial usual responses are “me;” the next James Bond; some famous personality; etc. The list could fill this page.

I then explain that they are looking at the main culprit, problem or obstacle standing in the way of their success.

After 5 or so minutes, I ask them to look in the mirror and again tell me what they see. There are no more cute responses or so-called witty responses. They are now skeptical and have that deer in the headlights look, wondering if I’ve asked a trick question. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi 10 things to make today better

10 Steps to Make Each Day Better Than the Day Before

  1. You approach your role with an organized and focused “get it done now” sense of urgency.
  2. You focus on results, not just “to do’s”.
  3. You know how to evaluate risks that need to be taken and act only on the correct ones.
  4. You practice positive self-talk that encourages you to believe in your abilities and properly challenge yourself.
  5. You talk with others in a respectful but confident manner.
  6. You are organized and in control; you can’t even spell “overwhelm” let alone talk about it.
  7. You have no interest in blaming others or being overly critical of yourself (no self-guilt); you know that these activities (blame and guilt) wastes time and creates unnecessary emotional distractions.
  8. You ignore negative feedback based solely upon negative opinions lacking any constructive alternatives.
  9. You don’t worry about things you cannot control; you focus on what you can influence or direct.
  10. You work on executing the fundamentals as best as you can, keeping everything as simple as possible.

 

Chris Ruisi Bad Judgement

Bad Judgement

There is a tale out there of a young and inexperienced seeker of knowledge who one day climbed to the top of the mountain to question and learn from the wisest and most revered man in the village.

The young man asked – “Where does wisdom come from?”
The old man replied – “Good judgement”
Then he asked – “Where does good judgement come from?”
The old man stared intently at him and said – “Experience”
Not satisfied, the young man asked – “Where does experience come from?”
With a smile on his face the old man responded – “Bad judgement”

I’m sure that many of you have heard this story or one very similar to it. But what can we take from it? If it is wisdom and the best experience you seek, try starting with these 5 points:

  1. You can’t always be right; accept it, but learn to keep your mind open to the possibilities that are out there.
  2. 9999% of the mistakes you make won’t kill you or anyone else. Never fear making a mistake because they offer excellent learning opportunities. What you learn from them will enhance your life. When you make a mistake, make a glorious recovery. And, try not to make the same mistake twice.
  3. Learn to take smart risks – the road to success has “risk stops” along the way. Evaluate them and decide the right action. Don’t let the fear of risks derail you. As the story goes, the only way a turtle can move forward is to stick his neck out – be the turtle when appropriate.
  4. Stop focusing on the tasks; don’t let a sheet on a yellow pad with lines drawn through “make work” tasks define you. Focus on the right ones and look to create value, not activity.
  5. Trying to be perfect is not only impossible but boring and a waste of valuable time and energy. Strive to give 100% of your best effort 100% of the time.

 

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What Other People Think About Me is None of My Business

Many of you go through life constantly worrying or obsessing over what others might think about you. You go out of your way to be liked; so much so you even compromise on your own values. You try way too hard to be part of who you perceive to be the “in” crowd. Most of these “crowds” really don’t care about you, so you end up being “alone” in a group. Why not be your own “in” crowd and attract the right people to be with? Stop looking for permission to act even though no one’s permission is needed. You are driven to want to be liked versus being respected. Stop sacrificing your own self-esteem and self-worth for others. Be the person who you respect first—the rest becomes easy after that.

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Chris Ruisi 4 Laws of Success

Four Irrefutable Laws of Business Success

Successfully running any type of business – whether small, medium or big – is hard work and requires the leader to possess a great deal of consistent clarity, focus, self-discipline, perseverance and resilience. These are some of the key skills needed for what I refer to as “Driving Business Growth.”

While the work associated with “Driving Business Growth” is hard, it is very doable. One of the keys to success is to break down the components of success into smaller and more concise – easily understood – elements to make them easier to act upon. To stress their importance, I refer to them as “Laws” in today’s Wake Up Call. The four laws shown here provide you the opportunity to build the footing and foundation for your success journey. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Learn

Learn Something Every Day

It’s been said that a day without learning is a day without living. When you stop learning or close your mind to learning, you become stagnant and you die – first intellectually, then emotionally and then…well, you know. As Stephen Covey wrote in his “7 Habits…” piece – always sharpen the saw. Coach Wooden once said, “It’s what you learn after you think you know it all that counts.” Always ask yourself, “What can I do to improve?”

Once you have learned something, practice it until you are good at it. Real success comes from those who practice; in life, there is no room for “winging it”. Coach Lou Carnesca of St. John’s University said it best, “Nothing takes place on the court that doesn’t first take place in practice.”

Let me share with you some things that I have learned over the years… Continue reading

Chris Ruisi What I Know

Here’s What I Think

  1. We cannot control many of the outside forces or events that bombard us every day. Focus on what you can control.
  2. Get moving. Don’t stand there and think; get clear on your desired outcome and take the first step, then another. Consistent and focused action gets results; you stall…you lose.
  3. The one thing that we have absolute, complete and total control over is our mind and the thoughts we harbor in it. Stop focusing on just the negatives.
  4. It’s time to start focusing on possibilities, rather than on limits and obstacles. You need to set yourself free. This means you must give yourself permission to dream and to take risks.
  5. Real limits will not box you in because you can always find a way to deal with them. It is the false ones you are carrying around in your mind that become the self-imposed prison of your dreams and goals.
  6. Self-doubt is what does the most damage. Don’t give it any mental space.
  7. The best way to not give doubt any mental space is to fill your mind with dreams, goals and a vision, and act like success is your only option.
  8. I read once that if you give the world the best you have, the best will come back to you. John Wooden the legendary basketball coach at UCLA once said, “Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
  9. Now, I know we are dead for a long time; the fact is you only get one life, so why not get the most out of it? Make it a point to have fun. Taking life too seriously will kill you. You work hard so there should be no guilt associated with the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of your life.
  10. Make time every day to be grateful for all that you have; maybe the first thing in the morning or the last thing every evening. Many spend far too much time obsessing either over what others have or what is missing in their own life. If you want more, then pursue it.