You approach your role with an organized and focused “get it done now” sense of urgency.
You focus on results, not just “to do’s”.
You know how to evaluate risks that need to be taken and act only on the correct ones.
You practice positive self-talk that encourages you to believe in your abilities and properly challenge yourself.
You talk with others in a respectful but confident manner.
You are organized and in control; you can’t even spell “overwhelm” let alone talk about it.
You have no interest in blaming others or being overly critical of yourself (no self-guilt); you know that these activities (blame and guilt) wastes time and creates unnecessary emotional distractions.
You ignore negative feedback based solely upon negative opinions lacking any constructive alternatives.
You don’t worry about things you cannot control; you focus on what you can influence or direct.
You work on executing the fundamentals as best as you can, keeping everything as simple as possible.
All the successful people I have met have one very important thing in common. They have goals and they use those goals to drive their actions and behaviors. Now all of you are thinking, well I have goals. My response to most you would be – no you don’t. You have desires, wishes, hopes and intentions. You lump those together to create a fair amount of clutter bouncing around in the 7 inches between your ears. If you had clear, specific and realistic goals and worked at them intelligently, consistently and relentlessly, you would be more successful.
I read an article recently while flying to somewhere from somewhere else which explained why most of our goals go unachieved. There were four main reasons – procrastination and lack of action; lack of confidence and belief; lack of clarity or focus or a clear vision; and finally, fear. Do any of these reasons strike a personal note with you? If so then you need to stop what you’re doing, right now and get started on a new path.
There is a tale out there of a young and inexperienced seeker of knowledge who one day climbed to the top of the mountain to question and learn from the wisest and most revered man in the village.
The young man asked – “Where does wisdom come from?” The old man replied – “Good judgement” Then he asked – “Where does good judgement come from?” The old man stared intently at him and said – “Experience” Not satisfied, the young man asked – “Where does experience come from?” With a smile on his face the old man responded – “Bad judgement”
I’m sure that many of you have heard this story or one very similar to it. But what can we take from it? If it is wisdom and the best experience you seek, try starting with these 5 points:
You can’t always be right; accept it, but learn to keep your mind open to the possibilities that are out there.
9999% of the mistakes you make won’t kill you or anyone else. Never fear making a mistake because they offer excellent learning opportunities. What you learn from them will enhance your life. When you make a mistake, make a glorious recovery. And, try not to make the same mistake twice.
Learn to take smart risks – the road to success has “risk stops” along the way. Evaluate them and decide the right action. Don’t let the fear of risks derail you. As the story goes, the only way a turtle can move forward is to stick his neck out – be the turtle when appropriate.
Stop focusing on the tasks; don’t let a sheet on a yellow pad with lines drawn through “make work” tasks define you. Focus on the right ones and look to create value, not activity.
Trying to be perfect is not only impossible but boring and a waste of valuable time and energy. Strive to give 100% of your best effort 100% of the time.
Throughout my corporate career, I was always in a leadership position with my team depending on me to do the right thing to help them learn and grow to perform at their best level. Why? Well, simple really, because the single most important factor that will determine the success of your company is the quality of the team you assemble, develop and use. Or, in other words, lead.
Leaders succeed by getting the right results on a timely basis. You achieve those results from the work performed by your team – not you alone. If you accept that, then how you help your team find, develop and properly use their full capabilities to bring out their individual and collective greatness is a leader’s most important task.
As such, a leader can only be as good as the performance of their team. And, the team will only be as good as the limitations the leader places on their own performance. In other words, your team will mimic – repeat – your best work habits and your worst work habits.
So, the question to ask yourself is, “Are you setting the best leadership and example you can for your team?” Continue reading →
In today’s challenging business environment, everyone struggles with how to get more done, work harder and longer hours, multi-tasking (multi-dumb!), working faster along with a full range of tricks and shortcuts. Yet despite everyone’s best intentions, the struggle continues every day at desks all around the world.
So, the solution may just be something simpler but challenging for those so set in their ways that they are unwilling to fully embrace the degree of personal change required. Here are the 4 steps – habits – you should consider adopting: Continue reading →
Many of you go through life constantly worrying or obsessing over what others might think about you. You go out of your way to be liked; so much so you even compromise on your own values. You try way too hard to be part of who you perceive to be the “in” crowd. Most of these “crowds” really don’t care about you, so you end up being “alone” in a group. Why not be your own “in” crowd and attract the right people to be with? Stop looking for permission to act even though no one’s permission is needed. You are driven to want to be liked versus being respected. Stop sacrificing your own self-esteem and self-worth for others. Be the person who you respect first—the rest becomes easy after that.
Without the right mindset or attitude, you’ll never achieve your full level of success. You need confidence in your abilities in order to succeed. Learn how how “that little voice in the back of your head” can help you master anything going forward.
To achieve success, you have to know how to deal with distractions – and we all know that there can be a lot of them. Sometimes we allow them to get us off course. Distractions like moving from crisis to crisis, or being pulled in multiple directions take a serious toll on us mentally, physically and financially.
Here are several things that you can take action on to effectively manage distractions: Continue reading →
It’s been said that a day without learning is a day without living. When you stop learning or close your mind to learning, you become stagnant and you die – first intellectually, then emotionally and then…well, you know. As Stephen Covey wrote in his “7 Habits…” piece – always sharpen the saw. Coach Wooden once said, “It’s what you learn after you think you know it all that counts.” Always ask yourself, “What can I do to improve?”
Once you have learned something, practice it until you are good at it. Real success comes from those who practice; in life, there is no room for “winging it”. Coach Lou Carnesca of St. John’s University said it best, “Nothing takes place on the court that doesn’t first take place in practice.”
Restaurant servers who try to memorize my order versus writing it down, especially when we ask for changes to how the dish is prepared – it usually never shows up as ordered.
People who start statements with, “Can I be honest?” No, lie to me to see if I can catch you.
Flight attendants who are annoyed with the passengers being on the plane.
Parents at their children’s sporting events who lose it with a referee or official on what they perceive as a bad call but yet pride themselves on the strict discipline they impose on their children about the right social behavior.
People who insist on using all capital letters and multiple exclamation points or question marks in either e-mails or text messages to make a point.
People who allow fear to either “freeze” them in place or allow others to take advantage of them so much so that they become victims and self-sabotage their abilities to live a meaningful life.
People who live to make lists to show how busy and productive they are but yet cannot get anything, let alone the right things, done – they need an “Only I should do these things” list or a “Not to do” list.
Trying to understand the difference between “full or completely full” when it comes to airline boarding announcements or the difference between “unique and very unique” when it comes to describing a product or experience.
When a telephone service rep (usually the cable company) ends all calls – whether they help you or not – by saying “have I helped you today?” Sometimes individual thought needs to replace the scripted response.
Entrepreneurs / business owners who throw themselves at the feet of lousy customers, who are complaining – usually without merit, allowing the customer to the pull them around like a toy on a string – when they’re wrong, tell them they’re wrong! Dump them and go find the better customers who are out there.