In today’s challenging business environment, everyone struggles with how to get more done, work harder and longer hours, multi-tasking (multi-dumb!), working faster along with a full range of tricks and shortcuts. Yet despite everyone’s best intentions, the struggle continues every day at desks all around the world.
So, the solution may just be something simpler but challenging for those so set in their ways that they are unwilling to fully embrace the degree of personal change required. Here are the 4 steps – habits – you should consider adopting: Continue reading →
Many of you go through life constantly worrying or obsessing over what others might think about you. You go out of your way to be liked; so much so you even compromise on your own values. You try way too hard to be part of who you perceive to be the “in” crowd. Most of these “crowds” really don’t care about you, so you end up being “alone” in a group. Why not be your own “in” crowd and attract the right people to be with? Stop looking for permission to act even though no one’s permission is needed. You are driven to want to be liked versus being respected. Stop sacrificing your own self-esteem and self-worth for others. Be the person who you respect first—the rest becomes easy after that.
Without the right mindset or attitude, you’ll never achieve your full level of success. You need confidence in your abilities in order to succeed. Learn how how “that little voice in the back of your head” can help you master anything going forward.
To achieve success, you have to know how to deal with distractions – and we all know that there can be a lot of them. Sometimes we allow them to get us off course. Distractions like moving from crisis to crisis, or being pulled in multiple directions take a serious toll on us mentally, physically and financially.
Here are several things that you can take action on to effectively manage distractions: Continue reading →
It’s been said that a day without learning is a day without living. When you stop learning or close your mind to learning, you become stagnant and you die – first intellectually, then emotionally and then…well, you know. As Stephen Covey wrote in his “7 Habits…” piece – always sharpen the saw. Coach Wooden once said, “It’s what you learn after you think you know it all that counts.” Always ask yourself, “What can I do to improve?”
Once you have learned something, practice it until you are good at it. Real success comes from those who practice; in life, there is no room for “winging it”. Coach Lou Carnesca of St. John’s University said it best, “Nothing takes place on the court that doesn’t first take place in practice.”
Restaurant servers who try to memorize my order versus writing it down, especially when we ask for changes to how the dish is prepared – it usually never shows up as ordered.
People who start statements with, “Can I be honest?” No, lie to me to see if I can catch you.
Flight attendants who are annoyed with the passengers being on the plane.
Parents at their children’s sporting events who lose it with a referee or official on what they perceive as a bad call but yet pride themselves on the strict discipline they impose on their children about the right social behavior.
People who insist on using all capital letters and multiple exclamation points or question marks in either e-mails or text messages to make a point.
People who allow fear to either “freeze” them in place or allow others to take advantage of them so much so that they become victims and self-sabotage their abilities to live a meaningful life.
People who live to make lists to show how busy and productive they are but yet cannot get anything, let alone the right things, done – they need an “Only I should do these things” list or a “Not to do” list.
Trying to understand the difference between “full or completely full” when it comes to airline boarding announcements or the difference between “unique and very unique” when it comes to describing a product or experience.
When a telephone service rep (usually the cable company) ends all calls – whether they help you or not – by saying “have I helped you today?” Sometimes individual thought needs to replace the scripted response.
Entrepreneurs / business owners who throw themselves at the feet of lousy customers, who are complaining – usually without merit, allowing the customer to the pull them around like a toy on a string – when they’re wrong, tell them they’re wrong! Dump them and go find the better customers who are out there.
We cannot control many of the outside forces or events that bombard us every day. Focus on what you can control.
Get moving. Don’t stand there and think; get clear on your desired outcome and take the first step, then another. Consistent and focused action gets results; you stall…you lose.
The one thing that we have absolute, complete and total control over is our mind and the thoughts we harbor in it. Stop focusing on just the negatives.
It’s time to start focusing on possibilities, rather than on limits and obstacles. You need to set yourself free. This means you must give yourself permission to dream and to take risks.
Real limits will not box you in because you can always find a way to deal with them. It is the false ones you are carrying around in your mind that become the self-imposed prison of your dreams and goals.
Self-doubt is what does the most damage. Don’t give it any mental space.
The best way to not give doubt any mental space is to fill your mind with dreams, goals and a vision, and act like success is your only option.
I read once that if you give the world the best you have, the best will come back to you. John Wooden the legendary basketball coach at UCLA once said, “Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
Now, I know we are dead for a long time; the fact is you only get one life, so why not get the most out of it? Make it a point to have fun. Taking life too seriously will kill you. You work hard so there should be no guilt associated with the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of your life.
Make time every day to be grateful for all that you have; maybe the first thing in the morning or the last thing every evening. Many spend far too much time obsessing either over what others have or what is missing in their own life. If you want more, then pursue it.
None of us can maintain a high level of unchecked activity every minute of every working day. Often, this type of “work as fast as you can” approach leads to mental and emotional exhaustion which invariably leads to anxiety and causes overwhelm. And, that brings on the frustration at the end of this downward spiral. Productivity is lost, service goes down the drain and it basically turns into a lousy day.
Most of the time when we are stalled and frustrated, we get easily side-tracked and distracted, then get caught up in “busy work” which usually has no value.
There is no better time than the present to reset your personal and business GPS. Here are 10 simple – and I mean simple – suggestions to guide you in your “adjustment.”
What was the best thing that happened to you or your business in 2017? Why? Figure out a way to do it again in 2018.
What were your activities on the best days you had in 2017? Do it again in 2018.
What were the skills you used on some of your most productive days in 2017? Find ways to use those skills again in 2018.
What were the moments with your family and friends in 2017 that gave you the most pleasure, satisfaction and happiness? Do it again in 2018.
What were the things that you were most grateful for in 2017? Don’t lose sight of them in 2018.
How many times in 2017 did you miss an opportunity to help someone or make someone feel good about themselves? Don’t miss those opportunities in 2018.
How many times did you sell yourself short in 2017 and play it too safe? Start looking for ways to build your self-confidence in 2018.
How many times in 2017 did you put your business or career ahead of your family? Stop abusing the real gifts and wealth in your life in 2018.
How many times did you laugh at yourself in 2017? Find more reasons to laugh at yourself and have fun at your own expense in 2018.
How many times in 2017 did you miss or put off an opportunity to invest in yourself and learn something that would make you better? Set a goal in 2018 to invest in yourself. When you get better, everything and everyone around you gets better as well.
Often driven individuals like to “go it alone.” They see this as their defining characteristic. They brag about it and heap upon themselves unlimited amounts of self-praise. They boast how they don’t need help. While a healthy dose of self-esteem and self-confidence is needed to achieve success, these individuals are over-dosing on it.
These “driven ones” get so caught up in their “go it alone” mentality that they eventually lose sight of reality. Their obsession to go it alone becomes madness. When this happens, they become consumed by their reality until anxiety and overwhelm overcome them, and that usually ends up with a self-created crisis.
Rather than going deeper into their foxhole, alone, they need to stick their head up just enough to assess their new or changing reality and quickly determine what help they need to keep moving forward.
Here’s a fact: The business climate today is more complex than it was 5 years ago. Things like evolving technology, growing customers’ demands, increasing government regulations, availability of skilled and engaged employees are all having significant impact on all businesses and their leaders.
The leaders of today will only become the leaders of tomorrow when they abandon their “go it alone” mentality and surround themselves with the right advisors who share their vision of success. To do otherwise, given the challenges we all face, would be foolhardy.