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Keep it Simple Chris Ruisi

For Starters, Keep it Simple

Nothing is ever really as hard as it first appears to be. Personally, I tend to over-simplify things. Sometimes I’m wrong and pay dearly for my miscalculation. Fortunately, more times than not, I’ve been right and have avoided a fair amount of frustration and wasted time.

The fact is, we sometimes tend to make things harder or more complicated than they need to be. Why? Because we do. We over-think the situation. We get emotional and even mad. We lose site of the root cause, the real facts and the best solution.

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Mental Toughness Chris Ruisi

Resolutions Are Useless – Build Mental Toughness First

Some view resolutions as statements of intention. However, to be meaningful, resolutions require action.

Success in business (or for that matter anything else) requires action in the form of hard, focused, disciplined and committed work. There are no shortcuts to success.

We can all agree that to be successful requires the proper use of certain knowledge and skills. However, without the proper mental foundation there is no way you can use that knowledge and skill effectively. I refer to this foundation as your “mental toughness”. Developing this mental toughness is a choice. Here are 3 key steps that will get you going in the right direction: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Blank Canvas

It’s Never Too Late

At one minute past midnight on January 1st, we all had the same opportunity presented to us. We all were given a clean blank canvas to use to draw our future success. So with the New Year now 9 days old, let me ask: What did you draw?

  • Did it show more of the same or a bold picture of what you are truly capable of achieving?
  • Did you draw a future that is below your capabilities or one that will offer you growth and success?
  • Did your picture show your knowledge and skills getting stale or did you draw what it looks like when you truly invest in yourself and your future?
  • Did your picture show you being victimized by distractions or circumstance, or did it depict you as a master of your circumstances?
  • Did your picture show how you will be different in 2017 or did it show you “stuck in the mud” and re-living all of what you wish you had changed last year?

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Chris Ruisi Persistence

Persistence

One of the biggest challenges I see among the people I work with – and for that matter the many leaders and entrepreneurs I observe – is the lack of a key success skill: persistence.

Persistence requires that you forge ahead, work hard and not give up at the first, second or even third obstacle you encounter. You need to relax and accept the fact that no one gets it right the first time, or even the second or third time. It’s okay to make a mistake. In life, there are no mistakes, just lessons. Mistakes offer each of us meaningful opportunities to learn and perform better. Just don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over. If you are, then you’re just lazy.

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Chris Ruisi Grateful Live Life

Enjoy Life and Be Grateful

Well, we just completed what I hope was a restful Thanksgiving weekend. I hope that you let the spirit and intent of the holiday guide you in all that you did. If so, great! If not, you don’t have to wait until next year to take the time to reflect on all of the good things and people in your life.

The fact is we only get one life (and I know we are dead for a long time), so why not get the most out of it? Make it a point to have fun. Taking life too seriously will kill you. You work hard so there should be no guilt associated with the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of your life. Look, there is some degree of suffering in each of our lives. Many of us choose – that’s right choose – to suffer longer than we have to or need to. Don’t be a victim of self-induced suffering brought on by all that surrounds us.

If fun doesn’t happen spontaneously, then plan it and make time for it. Just have fun!

Make time every day, to be grateful for all that you have; maybe the first thing in the morning or the last thing every evening. Many of us spend far too much time obsessing either over what others have or what is missing in our lives. If you want more, then pursue it. Look in the mirror daily—you are your own solution to the challenges you face every day. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Productivity

Here You Go Again!

It’s that time of year…again! We’re rapidly approaching the end of the year and you’re all starting to realize you still have a great deal of work to be done! But, let me ask you: Does all of it have to be done? You are right in the same place – again – that you promised yourself last year you would do everything to avoid.

Why are you here – again – because over the course of the year you lost your focus. Or, you never really had it. Consider these facts:

  • The biggest challenge we all have is that there’s never enough time in any given day to get everything done.
  • Staying focused on your priorities is one of the toughest challenges we all have. Yet we make it harder by not understanding what a real priority is.
  • Many of you think that making a list of “to do’s” (the longer the better) makes you effective planners. Again, another fallacy because you don’t question whether some of the things on your list should be there at all!

Here 5 simple steps you can take – starting today – to gain and stay focused on getting the “right” things done: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Managing Fear and Risk

Running with the Bulls

I learned recently that a good friend of mine has, on several occasions, travelled to Spain to “run with the bulls”. If there was ever a good example of evaluating risk and managing fear, running with a bunch of angry and powerful bulls down a narrow street with people shouting and cheering would be it!

What my friend did first was assess the risk versus the goal that he wanted to achieve: to test the limits of his capabilities and bring them to a higher level. This in turn would give him the self-esteem and confidence to tackle bigger challenges in his career or personal life. Or in other words, build his self-belief.

In evaluating the risk, fear and reward factors, he concluded that if he prepared appropriately and studied what needed to be done, he could bring the risk and the fear down to an acceptable level to achieve his goal. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Exceptional

To Become Exceptional Means You Must Fight Off Distractions

The comedian Steven Wright once said, “I’d love to be able to daydream, but I get distracted.” Distractions happen, but do we really have to be bothered by them when we’re trying to be and act exceptional? Of course you do! You just need to understand the best way to deal with them.

First things first: Have a specific vision. With a specific vision, realistic goals, and daily planning, you’ll be able to measure your progress and avoid “firefighting distractions”.

You can effectively avoid or fight off distractions by being focused on a consistent basis. Have a daily plan and outline the top one to three things that you must accomplish that day. In developing this daily plan, also try to identify what barriers might stop you from completing these key tasks. Have a contingency plan ready if you get stalled.

When things get hectic, learn to take a “time out” – no more than 10 minutes to assess the circumstances you find yourself in. During your time out, catch your breath and ask yourself these two questions:

Am I working on the right things based on the goals I want to achieve?

And, is this the best use of my skills and abilities or should someone else be doing this now?

To be exceptional, you need to recognize that now – not later – is time to get up close and personal with all of those distractions that you face every day and get rid of them. The below questions will help you understand the distractions you face so you can eliminate them in the future.

  • What is your biggest distraction(s)?
  • How does it impact (hurt) you?
  • Be honest, why do you think these events occur?
  • What are the top three steps you can take to eliminate it?