Quiet confidence means that you believe in yourself 100% to the point where you know that success is the only option or outcome. In other words, you don’t talk about what you’re going to do, you let your actions and results speak for you. Individuals who possess quiet confidence know exactly what they must do to achieve their goals.
We’re challenged every day by distractions and issues so much so that we lose focus and allow ourselves to become the victim of our circumstances as opposed to the master of them.
When this happens, one of the easiest (and unfortunately most common) reactions is to complain about what is happening. When we allow complaining to be our “usual” response to problems, we start to lose sight of our ability to achieve our goals. If you make this a “habit,” you could find yourself in a downward spiral that you may not get out of.
You must work hard to gain back control and take charge of your destiny. But how? For starters, remember that we cannot control many of the outside forces or events that are impacting us – so focus on what you can control. Next, here are 5 simple actions you can take:
Get moving – don’t stand there and think; action gets action. You stall…you lose – change the way you think.
Put yourself in a 10-minute time-out to give yourself some time to do a mental reboot and to allow you to look at the issue from a different perspective.
Instead of complaining – which in a strange way makes you feel good – start thinking about alternatives or solutions to the problems. Solving problems will make you feel better.
There is always one step you can take to turn the tide in your favor – find it and take it.
If you’re confused about the next step, seek the advice of someone you respect. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help; rather it’s a sign of strength that you are committed to finding a solution.
Fact # 1: We are dead for a long time. Fact # 2: You only get one life, so why not get the most out of it? Don’t limit or even shorten your life by complaining. There is some degree of suffering in each of our lives. But suffering is a choice. We choose what we want to suffer about and how long we are willing to suffer. Don’t be a victim of self-induced suffering brought on by all the things you complain about.
Many of us spend far too much time complaining either over what others have or what is missing in our lives. If you want more, then stop complaining and actively pursue your goals.
Now we all from time to time have heard people tell us to do our best. It is great advice to do your best, but rarely does anyone suggest that you should first prepare to do your best or explain how to do that.
The most successful athletes, business leaders, entertainers, and other professionals all have practiced or prepared to give their best, so why shouldn’t you? Why shouldn’t you want to do and be your best? So let’s talk about preparing to be your best: Continue reading →
To be successful and use our full capabilities, we must drive ourselves to stand out, demonstrate our uniqueness and show our value. What guides us? Our own self-belief system. Chris shares the importance of self-belief and 5 points to help strengthen your belief in yourself.
Successful people expect to win. They create positive beliefs in their mind and use those beliefs to help them determine the right actions to take in order to achieve their desired outcomes. They create a “picture” of what success looks like in their mind first before their body actually gets there.
Successful people know it’s possible to experience big wins and successes, but they are more rare than one would imagine. It’s the consistent application of their skills that help them achieve success.
Successful people don’t make excuses when they experience a setback, a mistake or failure. They focus on what went wrong and what they can learn from it so that they can do it better the next time. They follow a simple and disciplined process: they own it, fix it, learn from it and then move on.
Successful people have the ability to control themselves (their thoughts and emotions). They’re able to evaluate situations as they occur; to stay in the moment and not allow the situation or others to control them or their destiny.
Successful people know that others will judge them regardless of what they do. As such, they don’t live their life trying to satisfy the standards of others. Rather they focus on consistently using their best habits and skills every day to help them achieve their goals.
(A special excerpt from The Go-To Person’s Guide to Success)
In 1961, “How to Succeed in Business without Really Trying” opened on Broadway. During its run of 1,471 performances, the show won 7 Tony Awards and a New York Drama Critic’s Circle Award. The play (and subsequent movie) was great, despite the fact that nobody can succeed in business “without really trying.” Success in business (or anything else, for that matter) requires work – hard, focused, disciplined, and committed work. There are no shortcuts to success.
Success requires the proper use of certain knowledge and skills. Without the proper mental foundation, there’s no way your knowledge and skills will be used effectively. I refer to this foundation as “mental toughness.” Why? Because any level of success must be built upon it. Developing mental toughness is a choice.
Jack Welch, the famous CEO of General Electric, once said, “Good business leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own and live the vision and relentlessly drive it to completion through effective execution.” If you thought those were just “words”, when Welch retired in September 2000 and GE had a $402 billion market value.
Today GE – after going through several Welch relationships – has a market value of around $100 billion. They are a mere shadow of the Welch era.
Learning point #1: Regardless of the size or scope of your business, do you have a clear vision and are you “seriously” passionate and committed to making it a reality? Continue reading →
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? We are our single biggest asset, as well as our single biggest challenge. There are a number of factors as to what’s holding you back, but the single answer to start with is you.
As we embark upon the beginning of 2019 many are going through the annual resolution setting ritual. Goals are being set and promises made of which many will eventually be broken.
I’d like to suggest a different approach for you to achieve success and growth in 2019. It’s simple really but will require your very best commitment and self-discipline to follow it effectively. Simply stated, learn how to say “No” when: Continue reading →