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Do You Try or Do You Try?

The title as written is not a typo! It is meant to demonstrate that the word “try” can have two very different meanings and outcomes depending on how it is defined in your mind.

For example, on the “plus” side of the word try, is the recognition that to succeed at anything, one must take action towards a goal or outcome. Before we take the action, we go through a mental process evaluating what needs to be done and any risks associated with what we are planning to do. If it all makes sense, we start the process by “trying.” And this requires that we have a healthy mindset set evidenced by our courage and commitment to act. Also factored into this equation is our willingness to make a mistake and learn from it.

The other side of the word “try,” like Star Wars, has a “dark side.” Here, “try”… Continue reading

Chris Ruisi on Failure

Are You 100% “All In” Every Day?

I find it interesting when someone says that they “know what they need to do.” You can almost see them patting themselves on the back for having recognized their need to act. Unfortunately, their recognition never turns into action and they continue to struggle with making the same mistakes, never progressing beyond their own self-imposed status quo.

Taking “knowing what you need to do” and translating that into specific actions is where many stall and fail. Why? Because they don’t realize that the required actions have as their foundation the clarity on what needs to be done; the self-discipline to actually do it; the persistence to work at it until they’ve succeeded; and the resilience to push through any barriers or obstacles they encounter. In other words, they lack the mindset to be 100% All In.

This 100% All In mindset allows you to take full control of your life or as I say to Step Up and Play Big and be the master of your circumstances. Here’s what a 100% All In mindset looks like: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi on Failure

Are You a Failure at Failure?

Failure is a fact of life. Failure happens. When it happens to you, you can lament about it and look to blame someone (other than you) or something. When you follow this approach, the next step is to throw up your hands in disgust and frustration, walk away and quit.

Or, you can make the conscious decision to take a step back, evaluate what happened and learn from the experience. And as you might suspect, this is the preferred action. In this regard, I stress a 4-step process that when things go wrong and you fail, you own it, fix it, learn from it and move on. And when you do fail, fail fast. I follow a simple rule: “Fail your failures fast,” so that you can get back on track and keep moving forward.

Taking a risk is the decision that sometimes leads to failure. To minimize the possibility of failure, learn to take calculated risks. Many of you have heard me say, “A turtle moves forward by sticking its neck out.” Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Success

Success

Much has been written about how one can achieve success. The vast majority of what is out there is very good. However, to be a success, in whatever you do, you have to start acting like you’re a success – now. I have yet to find a “success switch” that when flipped, one automatically is successful.

Despite what you might believe or have read, you can control the majority of your destiny. It all starts with making a choice; deciding what you want, and then taking the necessary steps to achieve your goal.

Before you go out and buy all the books and videos about success (and you should buy the right ones), start with these four simple but yet important actions to help you experience the essence of success and get you on the right path for the “journey”— Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Knowledge

Well, If You Ask Me…

As some of you may know, back in 2014-2015 I hosted a weekly “live” Internet radio show on Voice America. What follows are some of the key learning highlights from these shows. The learnings then from my great guests are just as valuable now as they were then—read, learn and apply. Continue reading

Chris Ruisi on Happiness

The Pursuit of Happiness

Our founding fathers said it best when they wrote:

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all
Men are created equal, that they are endowed
By their Creator with certain unalienable rights
that among these are Life, Liberty
and the pursuit of happiness.

While the Declaration of Independence does not guarantee happiness, it makes it very clear that it is our job to pursue our happiness. Only we can make ourselves happy, and only we can see our dream and only we can live it.

But how does one “pursue happiness?” Consider the following: Continue reading

Quiet Confidence

Creating A Competitive Edge

We create our own competitive edge – each day – in the “7 inches between our ears,” i.e., our minds. It’s also the same place where we can derail our path to success.  The mindset each of us brings to our work each day is a critical component of how our day goes.

One key aspect of our daily mindset is something I often refer to as “quiet confidence,”

Quiet confidence means that you believe in yourself 100% to the point where you know that success is the only option or outcome. In other words, you don’t talk about what you’re going to do, you let your actions and results speak for you. Individuals who possess quiet confidence know exactly what they have to do to achieve their goals.

It’s a fact that others are attracted to, want to be around, follow and buy from people who know “exactly what to do” to get the job done. Make no mistake, that’s a “competitive edge” for the person who possesses quiet confidence! Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Quiet Confidence

Advice to Gain the Edge

Quiet confidence means that you believe in yourself 100% to the point where you know that success is the only option or outcome. In other words, you don’t talk about what you’re going to do, you let your actions and results speak for you. Individuals who possess quiet confidence know exactly what they must do to achieve their goals.

You have “quiet confidence” when: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Complaining

Stop Complaining

We’re challenged every day by distractions and issues so much so that we lose focus and allow ourselves to become the victim of our circumstances as opposed to the master of them.

When this happens, one of the easiest (and unfortunately most common) reactions is to complain about what is happening. When we allow complaining to be our “usual” response to problems, we start to lose sight of our ability to achieve our goals. If you make this a “habit,” you could find yourself in a downward spiral that you may not get out of.

You must work hard to gain back control and take charge of your destiny. But how? For starters, remember that we cannot control many of the outside forces or events that are impacting us – so focus on what you can control. Next, here are 5 simple actions you can take: Continue reading

Chris Ruisi Goals

Getting the Right Things Done

Over the course of a typical day, week or month we always have things to get done. We also have an equal amount of things that can best be described as “distractions”. You know, the “stuff” that gets in the away and pulls us in every which way other than the right way. Unfortunately, more times than not we get pulled into solving someone else’s problem or worse yet we get “seduced” (what a great word) by the “shiny object” syndrome: something that looks good but does no good.

There will always be distractions and “shiny objects”. Our challenge is in how we not only fight them off but how we condition ourselves not to be tempted in the first place. Here are the 5 simple steps you can take to condition yourself to stay focused and get the “right” things done: Continue reading