At times, I’ve used a simple exercise with clients to help them understand that they need to get out of their own way.
I ask them to look at a mirror and tell me what they see. The initial usual responses are “me;” the next James Bond; some famous personality; etc. The list could fill this page.
I then explain that they are looking at the main culprit, problem or obstacle standing in the way of their success.
After 5 or so minutes, I ask them to look in the mirror and again tell me what they see. There are no more cute responses or so-called witty responses. They are now skeptical and have that deer in the headlights look, wondering if I’ve asked a trick question. Continue reading →
We cannot control many of the outside forces or events that bombard us every day. Focus on what you can control.
Get moving. Don’t stand there and think; get clear on your desired outcome and take the first step, then another. Consistent and focused action gets results; you stall…you lose.
The one thing that we have absolute, complete and total control over is our mind and the thoughts we harbor in it. Stop focusing on just the negatives.
It’s time to start focusing on possibilities, rather than on limits and obstacles. You need to set yourself free. This means you must give yourself permission to dream and to take risks.
Real limits will not box you in because you can always find a way to deal with them. It is the false ones you are carrying around in your mind that become the self-imposed prison of your dreams and goals.
Self-doubt is what does the most damage. Don’t give it any mental space.
The best way to not give doubt any mental space is to fill your mind with dreams, goals and a vision, and act like success is your only option.
I read once that if you give the world the best you have, the best will come back to you. John Wooden the legendary basketball coach at UCLA once said, “Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
Now, I know we are dead for a long time; the fact is you only get one life, so why not get the most out of it? Make it a point to have fun. Taking life too seriously will kill you. You work hard so there should be no guilt associated with the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of your life.
Make time every day to be grateful for all that you have; maybe the first thing in the morning or the last thing every evening. Many spend far too much time obsessing either over what others have or what is missing in their own life. If you want more, then pursue it.
I’m often asked what skills or habits are the most important ones to possess if one is to consistently achieve success. From my own observations and work with current and former clients, here are the ones that I believe are the most important. They are not the only keys to your success, but when you master them, you will have built the foundation needed to support other important habits. Continue reading →
Some view resolutions as statements of intention. However, to be meaningful, resolutions require action.
Success in business (or for that matter anything else) requires action in the form of hard, focused, disciplined and committed work. There are no shortcuts to success.
We can all agree that to be successful requires the proper use of certain knowledge and skills. However, without the proper mental foundation there is no way you can use that knowledge and skill effectively. I refer to this foundation as your “mental toughness”. Developing this mental toughness is a choice. Here are 3 key steps that will get you going in the right direction: Continue reading →
One of the biggest challenges I see among the people I work with – and for that matter the many leaders and entrepreneurs I observe – is the lack of a key success skill: persistence.
Persistence requires that you forge ahead, work hard and not give up at the first, second or even third obstacle you encounter. You need to relax and accept the fact that no one gets it right the first time, or even the second or third time. It’s okay to make a mistake. In life, there are no mistakes, just lessons. Mistakes offer each of us meaningful opportunities to learn and perform better. Just don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over. If you are, then you’re just lazy.
All too often, many accept their status and decide that “it is what it is” and put a permanent hold on any activities that challenge themselves to develop and use their full capabilities. This is self-sabotage in its purest sense. What follows is equally destructive, as the individual slowly becomes a victim of their circumstances, missing out on the opportunities that find their way to others who have chosen to keep “working on” their skills set and abilities.
All of us want more and either “talk” or “dream” about exciting plans for the future. However, talk and dreams rarely create change, especially when our self-development and growth are concerned. If you truly want to avoid becoming a victim (by the way, it’s far easier to stay a victim), think about taking action on these simple steps: Continue reading →
Looking for easy days or approaches isn’t always the best approach. Chris explains the meaning behind this Navy Seals motto and how it can be applied in our personal and business lives.
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As we approach the end of the year, many assess what they have accomplished and what still remains to be done. Some will revamp their priorities and stay focused on getting the job done. Others will give up on the project. Well, they may have decided to stop working on the project but, they quit on themselves.
Perseverance means never quitting. There are many true stories about people who have demonstrated this trait – i.e., Thomas Edison inventing the light bulb, etc. The fact is they would not allow themselves to give up. Not giving up has to be practiced and developed into a habit.
We all have a dream or a goal that we would like to accomplish. Oftentimes the difference between accomplishing the goal or not is how strong your belief is to overcome the obstacles that you will face. The fact is, very few people get it right the first time, or even the second or third time. The difference is that they learn from their past mistakes and adjust their approach going forward. In other words, they look for ways to keep moving forward; they don’t give up.
“The Captain” Derek Jeter is winding down his outstanding career with the NY Yankees. But, it wasn’t always the life of an all-star. Here’s a brief summary I recently read about his early days:
“Shortly after being selected 6th overall in the 1992 draft, Jeter was in danger of becoming a bust – his minor league career almost stalled because he couldn’t play defense.
In 1993 after his first season in the minor leagues, the future Yankee Captain’s baseball fundamentals were in need of significant improvement – he was athletic and smart, but his glove was a disaster; he had several bad habits that needed correcting. In 126 games he had made 56 errors – there was talk of moving him from shortstop to the outfield. The solution was what they called “boot camp” – Jeter would hit the field early and work until noon, ground ball after ground ball. Afterwards they would assess what worked and what didn’t – watch the films – and then head back on to the field to do it all over again, day after day for 35 straight days”.
And the rest is history, as baseball fans from everywhere celebrate his career, wish him well and thank him for giving it his all every day on the field and off it.
What made Derek Jeter different was that he wanted to be a great player and was prepared and committed to do everything he could to become a great player.
Now many of us will never become an all-star shortstop or even a professional athlete. But, we can become an all-star or a great player at whatever career or life choice we decide to pursue. How? Consider the following:
It all starts with a vision of what you want to do – Jeter knew he wanted to be a great player. The picture of a great player was clear in his mind at all times.
Let your vision fuel your passion and set clear goals on what you must do on a consistent basis to make that vision a reality.
Work hard at what you know must be done, when it needs to be done – never give anything less than your best effort.
Never give up on your vision (dream) and don’t let others talk you out of it.
Learn from your mistakes, don’t dwell on them.
Have the courage to push through the barriers and obstacles you will face.
Keep your sense of humor and laugh at yourself now and then.
Constantly look for feedback – constructive feedback, not the hurtful kind that we all occasionally encounter.
Find a mentor who will guide you and hold you accountable.
Never forget who you are – don’t let your career define you. When it’s time to hang up your cleats and glove, be remembered for who you are and not just for what you’ve done.
When we first start out as a child on our life’s journey, our internal compass guides us to find our own way, do our best and stand out on our own merit. Yet, as we grow and mature, we all find ourselves being pressured or driven by others to conform or to “fit in”. However, to be successful, to use our full capabilities we must “drive” ourselves to stand out, to demonstrate our uniqueness and to show our value.
What fuels this “drive” is our self-belief make-up. Our minds are the most powerful tool we have. What it depends upon most of all for it to guide us effectively is our self-belief system. From my own experiences and observations, I have learned that to be successful, one needs to have a strong internal foundation of self-belief. Continue reading →