We’re challenged every day by distractions and issues so much so that we lose focus and allow ourselves to become the victim of our circumstances as opposed to the master of them.
When this happens, one of the easiest (and unfortunately most common) reactions is to complain about what is happening. When we allow complaining to be our “usual” response to problems, we start to lose sight of our ability to achieve our goals. If you make this a “habit,” you could find yourself in a downward spiral that you may not get out of.
You must work hard to gain back control and take charge of your destiny. But how? For starters, remember that we cannot control many of the outside forces or events that are impacting us – so focus on what you can control. Next, here are 5 simple actions you can take:
Get moving – don’t stand there and think; action gets action. You stall…you lose – change the way you think.
Put yourself in a 10-minute time-out to give yourself some time to do a mental reboot and to allow you to look at the issue from a different perspective.
Instead of complaining – which in a strange way makes you feel good – start thinking about alternatives or solutions to the problems. Solving problems will make you feel better.
There is always one step you can take to turn the tide in your favor – find it and take it.
If you’re confused about the next step, seek the advice of someone you respect. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help; rather it’s a sign of strength that you are committed to finding a solution.
Fact # 1: We are dead for a long time. Fact # 2: You only get one life, so why not get the most out of it? Don’t limit or even shorten your life by complaining. There is some degree of suffering in each of our lives. But suffering is a choice. We choose what we want to suffer about and how long we are willing to suffer. Don’t be a victim of self-induced suffering brought on by all the things you complain about.
Many of us spend far too much time complaining either over what others have or what is missing in our lives. If you want more, then stop complaining and actively pursue your goals.
Over the course of a typical day, week or month we always have things to get done. We also have an equal amount of things that can best be described as “distractions”. You know, the “stuff” that gets in the away and pulls us in every which way other than the right way. Unfortunately, more times than not we get pulled into solving someone else’s problem or worse yet we get “seduced” (what a great word) by the “shiny object” syndrome: something that looks good but does no good.
There will always be distractions and “shiny objects”. Our challenge is in how we not only fight them off but how we condition ourselves not to be tempted in the first place. Here are the 5 simple steps you can take to condition yourself to stay focused and get the “right” things done: Continue reading →
One of the more interesting experiences I have had in my role as a coach/mentor is when I meet people who, when they learn what I do, want to challenge my knowledge to justify their position. Or in other words, engineer (try to take it over) the conversation to allow them to demonstrate to me just how smart they really are. You know, they have the answer to the question and are looking for a way to share it.
Of course, they don’t realize that I really don’t care how smart they may “think” they are. Continue reading →
One of the key criteria for getting the right things done is that you maintain focus. Chris shares how to avoid those “self-imposed valleys of lost productivity” with these 5 simple steps to help you stay focused.
I received some great feedback and comments from many of you regarding my last week wake-up call regarding the importance of saying “no” when appropriate.
During the week I had some subsequent conversations with clients about it and thought that it would be helpful to expand further on at least two areas where saying no is of critical importance to you, the development and the success of your company.
First, when you are working on something important to you and give in with a “yes” to the question “Do you have a minute?” you are basically giving up any control over your own destiny. Being a good leader doesn’t mean you are constantly available to everyone. It’s impossible to function effectively that way. Continue reading →
As we embark upon the beginning of 2019 many are going through the annual resolution setting ritual. Goals are being set and promises made of which many will eventually be broken.
I’d like to suggest a different approach for you to achieve success and growth in 2019. It’s simple really but will require your very best commitment and self-discipline to follow it effectively. Simply stated, learn how to say “No” when: Continue reading →
I, like many of you, like information in the simplest and most efficient way possible. If I want or need further explanation, I will ask for it or go look for it myself. It is in that belief that I wanted to share with you 5 very simple but very effective techniques, when used as described, that will make your job as the leader easier and more significant.
These techniques were developed over the span of my corporate career and from my work with my many and diverse coaching clients, and…from the many mistakes that I have made along the way. Continue reading →