All too often, many accept their status and decide that “it is what it is” and put a permanent hold on any activities that challenge themselves to develop and use their full capabilities. This is self-sabotage in its purest sense. What follows is equally destructive, as the individual slowly becomes a victim of their circumstances, missing out on the opportunities that find their way to others who have chosen to keep “working on” their skills set and abilities.
All of us want more and either “talk” or “dream” about exciting plans for the future. However, talk and dreams rarely create change, especially when our self-development and growth are concerned. If you truly want to avoid becoming a victim (by the way, it’s far easier to stay a victim), think about taking action on these simple steps:
- Be honest with yourself and identify that one skill or knowledge that you believe the absence of which is holding you back. Limit yourself to working on one thing at a time so that you stay focused on your goal.
- Determine the steps you need to follow to acquire that knowledge. Take into account how much time it will take to achieve your learning goal(s).
- Identify the resources you will need to accomplish the learning goal. Definitely consider time and possibly money depending upon how the skill or knowledge will be acquired.
- Set up your plan, allocating the resources to a schedule that you will commit yourself to follow.
- Find a mentor or friend to hold you accountable to execute the plan as designed. Share it with them, explain your goals and why they are important to you.
- Periodically measure your progress and adjust your plan as needed.
Bottom-line, you can exert a great deal of influence over your destiny and success “if” – and I stress “if” – you are willing and committed to seeing the possibilities and then acting on them.