“Oh yesterdays are over my shoulder,
So I can’t look back for too long.
There’s just too much to see waiting in front of me
And I know that I just can’t go wrong.”
Jimmy Buffet – “Changes in Latitudes, Changes in Attitudes”
We’re in the middle of summer so why not lead with a little Jimmy Buffet?
The point of these lyrics is to raise the alert that far too many of you are wasting valuable time and energy with things that took place in the past. You’re lamenting and regretting actions you took or did not take – that as you read this today – you cannot do anything about. These events/issues “are over your shoulder”.
Constantly looking behind you and re-living past mistakes, etc. only results in wasting valuable time, energy and emotion, and forces you into living in a “could of, should of, or would of” world. Get over it. You have to break out of the regret, guilt and blame mode that YOU put yourself in. The best thing you can do is take responsibility for your actions: you know…own it, fix what happened, learn from it and move on.
What you can – and should – do is keep your eye and focus on the road ahead of you. That’s where the ride gets interesting. Ahead of you are challenges and opportunities to learn and grow, and to test and maximize your full capabilities. Will there be bumps and obstacles? You bet. Can you handle them? Again, you bet, by either coming up with solutions on your own based on your past experiences or from the experiences of others. Will get you a little dirty and bruised? You bet, but you will also build your self-confidence and self-esteem from knowing that you could handle it and succeed.
So like everything else in life, we are all faced with choices. Live in the past for too long and stagnate, or race down the highway that lies ahead, confident that you can handle whatever comes your way.